One of the reasons I haven’t blogged very regularly is that my book deadline is fast approaching. It’s on the equality of men and women and what that looks like in practice. If we believe that men and women are equal, how can we live intentionally to make that a reality – at home, in the church, as parents, at work, as partners and friends? I’m going to include some stories in the book of how people have addressed inequality or done things differently in those areas, and there’s still time to contribute. There’s some questions to prompt your stories here, or leave them in the comments below. I’ve loved hearing about how people share out the domestic chores between them, how they’ve juggled parenting and work, how they’ve challenged the status quo at work, or been deliberate about giving opportunities away. There’s no blueprint for how equality is expressed; it will look different for different individuals, families, organisations or churches but my hope is that reading about what others have done will spark ideas and get people talking about what could be different.

2 thoughts on “Doing life together – being intentional about equality

  1. Really glad to hear the book is progressing, sounds great and look fwd to being able to read it. It’s a really great set of questions and challenges around the practicality of how roles, tasks etc are ‘lived out’ and where the ideology/theology hits the road! It’s made me think that we are still on a journey with ideology/theology and practice. How do we better release each other into doing roles that we more naturally love and how do we ensure we also share the roles well that we don’t love but are often necessary/vital for living. For example, Cooking… Hazel my wife does the majority, but she herself acknowledges that it’s a real labour of love, and part of it is enabling me to have the opportunity. Whereas when it comes to recycling, washing up, cleaning etc we have more of an equal division partly out of practical necessity to get stuff done and partly out of ideology that we would not want either of us to be overly burdened or doing to much of these things whilst the other was not.

  2. Thanks Matt – I’ve got an interesting example for the book of a couple who scored all their domestic chores in terms of difficulty, how time-consuming they were and how much stress they caused them, and then divided them up so they each had the same number of high-scoring – difficult & time-consuming – and low-scoring – easy and quick – tasks. That way they knew they were both contributing the same to keeping the house running, and helped them to relax and trust each other. There’s lots of different ways of doing that sort of thing but important to have the conversations and keep working at it.

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